Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

We're back with one of our most popular guests Dr. Paul Eastwick to debunk some of the biggest myths – from the outdated "dating market" mindset to gender stereotypes – that hold us back from finding great partners and realizing we have the attributes that make us a good partner as well. We break down the real science behind the importance of the qualities we think make someone attractive, what ultimately makes someone a good long-term partner, and how to use this information to date in a way that leads to better long-term success. Enjoy!

To learn more about Paul visit https://pauleastwick.com/ and pick up his new book 'Bonded By Evolution: The New Science Of Love & Connection' out now.

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Dating may feel harder, but has it truly gotten harder in the last 10 years? Julie is breaking down her hypothesis that what we do know is that it sure has gotten a heck of a lot noisier! Between social media, AI, and well-meaning friends, she discusses how this has causes an influx of overthinking in dating instead of leading with connection. She talks about what we can do to reclaim our intuition and learn to trust yourself again. We're going to deep dive even further into this concept of self trust on a future episode, but hope this is the lightbulb moment that can help many of you today start to tune out the noise. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
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SEASON 22 IS OFFICIALLY HERE! And it's also our 10 year anniversary special from when our first episode went live back in Feb 2016. We're to taking a trip back memory lane to when we first started the podcast – what was going on in our lives and what made us decide to start a dating podcast to begin with! We're also talking about the big shifts that have happened in the last few years – from when the term situationship wasn't even in our vocabulary to what progress (and regressions) we've made in dating (yes, there is both). We're also reading our very first listener submission and leaving on a hopeful note of what we both think dating will look like in the next 10 years. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

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* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
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Ever been told to "believe in yourself" and thought, "How?" Yue explores why belief isn't about commands but proof. Inspired by Nir Eyal, she reveals how your brain demands evidence, not motivation. Discover how to shift beliefs by collecting proof from past wins and admired relationships. Yue shares practical steps to turn daily routines into evidence-collecting rituals, helping you align your mind with your goals. Ready to stop feeling fake and start believing? Hit play and start gathering those receipts!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE
* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE
* Care.com: Get 20% off your initial Care.com subscription or a Senior Care Advisor Plan
at https://care.com with the code DATEABLE
* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLE


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This week we're turning the tables and Yue is interviewing Julie now! Julie shares her experiences (and surprises!) about married life, including the unexpected emotional aftermath of the wedding. She reflects on her personal growth over the past decade, the importance of stability in relationships, and also how her anxieties have now manifested in different forms. We discuss the big 'What's Next?' question and Julie opens up about the pressures and considerations involved along with how she's trying to regain her mojo and trust in the timing of life events. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE
* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE
* Care.com: Get 20% off your initial Care.com subscription or a Senior Care Advisor Plan
at https://care.com with the code DATEABLE
* Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLE


Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donations

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